Who Teaches Us How To Be Old?

Who Teaches Us How To Be Old?

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Donna Marie Webber teaches rollerblading to people over 50—she’s 51 herself.  Check out her website—it’s full of fabulous instructional videos.

In this video, she discusses the conventional view of aging and where it comes from:

“When we are young we are taught how to be old when we get older…. I refuse to fall into that realm of because I’m over 50 I supposed to look a certain way or feel a certain way or act a certain way.”

I completely agree with Donna. Our whole view of getting older comes from our parents, teachers and even the media. They work on us from a very young age.  And most of what they told us no longer applies to our world.

What do you think—are we taught how to be old when we’re young?  If so, have you avoided the trap and how? (Confession: I still have a pair of 4-wheel skates in the back of my closet.)

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  1. Julie Farrar
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    I think about this a lot because right now I’m feeling old. I had some surgery (not too traumatic) but the recovery gave me fits and made my body all achy and non-functioning. I’m in my fifties but don’t plan on being old. Both of my parents have been gone for awhile, but my father-in-law is still kicking on all cylinders and a great role model for a long, healthy life. My sisters, on the other hand, seem to live with the “We’re getting older. What do you expect” attitude about everything. I am bound and determine not to give in to their attitude of inevitability. I still have mountains to climb.

    • Debra Eve
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      I can relate, Julie. I’m also in my fifties. I had a hysterectomy a few years back and it knocked me for a loop. I refuse to take it sitting in a recliner! Perhaps the answer is merely activity, both mental and physical. The type of activity we let go of years ago, not because of getting older, but because responsibilities took over. It’s something I think about often. Thanks for stopping by!

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