Why Are Some People Late Bloomers? Pt. 2

Why Are Some People Late Bloomers? Pt. 2

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In Part 1, we explored how “a good garden may have some weeds”—life’s difficulties and Later Blooming.

In this installment, we examine two intriguing traits that many Later Bloomers share—wide-ranging passions and learning through experiment.

Specialization is a relatively recent compulsion

During the Renaissance, humanism arose in revolt against the limits of Medieval education, which confined learning to law, medicine and theology.

The movement reignited interest in what we now call the humanities—classics, languages, literature, philosophy, arts of all types.

Many of our greatest minds were “Renaissance Men.”

Benjamin Franklin was an writer, printer, soldier, politician and diplomat. He invented bifocals, the lightning rod and the Franklin stove. Peter Mark Roget was a doctor, teacher, inventor, designer and compiler of the famous Thesaurus.

Specialization is a relatively recent compulsion.

Some people have wide-ranging passions. They have no desire to specialize because they’re driven by curiousity and wonder. In today’s world, they’re often denigrated.

Margaret Lobenstine calls this type of Later Bloomer a Renaissance Soul. She writes:

Renaissance Souls much prefer variety and combination over focusing all their energies on one thing. They prefer widening options by opening more and more doors, to narrowing choices by specializing and sub-specializing.

After succeeding in one area, the Renaissance Soul will seek a completely new adventure instead of accepting a promotion or job hopping to a higher salary.

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The musical South Pacific was based on Michener’s first novel

This might be why many Later Bloomers eventually become writers.

James Michener didn’t publish Tales of the South Pacific until age 40. He became famous for epic historical novels—Hawaii, Iberia, Poland, Texas, Alaska and Mexico—and wrote prolifically until his death at 90.

But he also wrote non-fiction on subjects as diverse as The Modern Japanese Print, Sports in America and A Century of Sonnets.

Before becoming a writer, Michener peddled chestnuts, toured America by boxcar, joined a carnival, enlisted in the Army, taught English, and edited textbooks.

Other late-blooming authors (and their former lives) include:

  • Miguel de Cervantes (valet, soldier, tax collector)—Don Quixote, age 58
  • Daniel Defoe (wine merchant, terrorist, tax collector)—Robinson Crusoe, age 60
  • Charles Perrault (civil servant)—Tales from Mother Goose, age 67
  • Bram Stoker (civil servant, theater manager)—Dracula, age 50
  • Isak Dineson (coffee rancher)—Seven Gothic Tales, age 49 and Out of Africa, age 52
  • P.D. James (civil servant, hospital administrator)—Published her first Adam Dalgliesh mystery in 1962, at age 42.

By far, writers comprise the largest subgroup of Later Bloomers I’ve researched.

Old Masters and Young Geniuses: Two Life Cycles of Artistic Creativity

David Galenson is an economics professor who writes about artists.

In Old Masters and Young Geniuses: The Two Life Cycles of Artistic Creativity, Galenson examined the auction prices of paintings throughout several artists’ lives. He identified two distinct patterns, not just in art, but in other creative fields:

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Picasso, self-portrait, age 25

Conceptual innovators peak early. They’re our prodigies and “young geniuses.” They see the whole scenario, then execute it—on canvas, in writing, on a music score sheet.

Picasso is the classic conceptual innovator. Picasso once said,

When I paint, my object is to show what I have found, not what I am looking for…I have never made trials or experiments.

Other conceptual innovators include Johannes Vermeer, Herman Melville, Sylvia Plath and Orson Welles.

Experimental innovators, on the other hand, are classic “old masters” and late bloomers. According to Galenson, they:

  • need a visual objective;
  • work slowly and incrementally;
  • consider their creative endeavors a form of research;
  • value the accumulation of knowledge over the result;
  • become totally absorbed while pursuing an ambitious, vague and elusive goal; and
  • experience frustration that their goal may be unobtainable.

They consider creative output “as a process of searching, in which they aim to discover the image in the course of making it.”

Paul Cézanne is a classic experimental innovator. He created his most valuable paintings (in terms of auction price) at the end of his life. Just a month before he died, Cézanne wrote:

Now it seems to me that I see better and that I think more correctly about the direction of my studies. Will I ever attain the end for which I have striven so much and so long? I hope so, but…until I have realized something better than in the past…I continue to study.

Learning by discovery and experimentation may take longer, but the results will be worth it.


Not all those who wander are lost.
~J.R.R. Tolkien

Curiosity and wonder drives many Later Bloomers. They have too many passions to settle. Plus, as David Galenson discovered, they often learn through discovery and experimentation, so achievement takes longer.

Daniel Pink (Al Gore’s old speechwriter and another lapsed lawyer) had this to say about Galenson’s work:

Of course, not every unaccomplished 65-year-old is some undiscovered experimental innovator. This is a universal theory of creativity, not a Viagra for sagging baby boomer self-esteem. It’s no justification for laziness or procrastination or indifference. But it might bolster the resolve of the relentlessly curious, the constantly tinkering, the dedicated tortoises undaunted by the blur of the hares.

In the end, though, you define success for yourself. What I like about Wikipedia’s late bloomer definition—”a person who does not discover their talents and abilities until later than normally expected”—is the sly implication that normalcy might be superfluous.

Further Reading, Part 2

37 Responses

  1. Heba
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    I am very glad I found this blog after frantically searching the internet for some sign of hope that it is never too late to discover your passion in life. At 32, I consider myself a late bloomer, of course, especially that the most successful people that we (or society in general) admire have always known, at a fairly young age, what they wanted to be. I, on the other hand, am just discovering that I have been doing what I am meant to do all my life: write. I have been writing since I learned my alphabet, but I never gave a career in writing a bit of thought. I grew up in Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates–not the most inspiring environment for an aspiring writer or artist of any sort. To transport myself to more fun places, I wrote for hours on end–complaining about my boring life, wishing I were some place different, dreaming of becoming an actress (Hollywood magic can captivate a young Arab girl), wishing my parents were dead, and spilling my guts to countless empty sheets of paper. Until recently, I never realized that I have been writing my entire life–for the same reasons still–and seeing that writing has helped me escape undesirable circumstances when I was a child, I am apparently trying to escape my circumstances right now.

    I agree with all the points you might regarding why some people are late bloomers. My environment was not stimulating, my parents did not offer much guidance, and my passions were too many! I do credit my parents for stocking my bedroom with encyclopedias, science books, art books, and above all, the author to which I owe my love of adventure, creative imagination, and reading to: Roald Dahl. Because of books like Witches, Matilda, and Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, I travelled to magical lands, met intriguing and colorful characters, and took part in some of the most fun adventures. It doesn’t surprise me at all that people with many passions end up being writers; this is exactly the direction I am heading. To be able to explore your interests and be curious about the world around you through writing is a dream–a dream I wish to live. Wait, I think I am living it. Thanks for the inspirational blog.

    • Debra Eve

      Heba, I am so glad this resonated with you. Thank you for your heartfelt comment. I can only imagine how tough it was growing up an imaginative and talented girl in the UAE. But you’ve found your passion now and that’s what counts. Congrats on taking the first steps and living your dream.

  2. Michael
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    Holy favorite authors batman! Quotes from 2 of my favorite authors in one post? OK OK two posts but ONE subject 😉 Milne & Tolkien. This indeed may be a sign of some kind.

    I’m 48 and definitely could describe myself using your reasons for a late bloomer. Too many passions being the major one. I often struggle trying to focus my site because there is just so much I want to write about! Darn those no cloning laws!

    • Debra Eve

      Hey Michael, it really was one post, but I broke it up. It really doesn’t get better than Tolkien and Milne. I’m so lucky to have found this subject matter, because it allows me to focus my many passions in an unconformist way. I’ve been told that “curating” fascinating material is the future of blogging, so you’re right on target!

  3. Cristina Andersson
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    Hi Elle,

    I just found your blog. What a blessing it is. I am striving to become a singer at the age of 52 and working to share the process with everybody who is interested. I believe Late Bloomers is one of the biggest trends in the near future.

    Your blog is in my favorites now 🙂
    Best regards from Helsinki!

    • Debra Eve

      So glad you enjoy it, Christina! You’ve made my day, being all the way from Finland. We need someone else besides Susan Boyle to represent for late-blooming singers!

  4. Robyn Stark
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    Oh yeah……I get this!
    Since starting school at 4 through to finishing at 15 and no parental or teacher guidance on careers I’m still trying to figure out what to be when I grow up! I have always admired people who knew what they wanted to do from a very young age and achieved that goal.

    Over the last 39 years I have had about 62 jobs some similar but many extremely different, around 42 places I have lived and still not knowing what I want, I continue to hear criticism and judgement from family and friends. “When you are going to settle down”….”what, another career”…..”why can’t you settle”? And that gets dumped on my own frustrations asking the same thing. But I have heaps of passions and interests conflicting with my love of new challenges and learning and then being kicked by my boredom state.

    I still want to be an ‘ist’. That’s my terminology for a having a title or a name for what you do…’a biologist, a therapist, a physiotherapist, a psychiatrist…..or titles that don’t end in ‘ist’ that still define me: a pilot, an author, a builder etc. But I just come back to describing myself as a ‘mistress of all trades and a jill of none’ and a ‘corporate gypsy’! Is there one umbrella anywhere that I can put all my skills into? Or is that just called life?

    Am I a 54 year old late bloomer? I hope so. I just wish I knew what flower I was going to become!

    Great blog……thank you!
    Cheers from sunny Queensland in Australia

    • Debra Eve

      Thanks for stopping by, Robyn! You know, being an “ist” can be highly overrated. I was an archaeologist for a while, but the “publish or perish” academic attitude almost killed my love of the field. I’m sure there are other “ists in the same boat. As I mentioned in the article, specialization is a relatively recent compulsion. What you’ve been sounds fascinating!

  5. Robyn Stark
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    Addendum to my comment above….

    I just realised I am an ‘ist’…..!!!
    I’m a florist!
    I’m a late bloomer!

    • Debra Eve

      Oh, that’s superb. I might have to interview you!

  6. Rossandra White
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    I loved how thoroughly you covered the subject of blooming late. As a young adult in my homeland of South Africa, late bloomers were another way of saying someone was a “little slow.” That kind of mind set is one of the reasons why I don’t live there anymore. One other thing, I find it startling to find thirty-year-olds considering themselves late bloomers, perhaps it has to do with finding one’s passion which can happen at any age.

    • Debra Eve

      Thanks Rossandra (beautiful name)! There are so many historical precedents for late blooming. Sometimes life just intervenes. I think many young people spend their 20s floundering for various reasons, which is why they consider themselves late bloomers at 30! Any time you find your passion is a good time.

  7. Adventurer
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    Finding this blog could not have come a more needed time. I have been always successful however never have achieved the super success which I thought would come from for narrowing and focusing in the one path.

    Talk about too many passions…that would be me. Too many paths to follow. It’s great to know it’s not all in vain but actully a method to the madness.

    Glad to meet you all late younger late bloomers. I will be 65 in three months and still blooming.

    • Debra Eve

      Hello and welcome! I recently read something to the effect that we now have entirely new life stage, twenty to forty years, that has never before existed in the history of mankind. What an opportunity! Only those of us with multiple passions can truly appreciate and use it. Thanks for your comment.

  8. Keith
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    I found much needed, great encouragement and inspiration in your words here. Thank you for them.

    I have every opportunity before me and yet I cannot bring myself to take them because I am self conscious about my grammar skills, or lack thereof. Any suggestions?
    I feel overwhelmed and inadequate.
    Thanks, surely there are others who feel the same.

    • Debra Eve

      I’m so glad you enjoyed the post, Keith. I receive hundreds of comments and emails, and can always tell when someone has problems with grammar or perhaps has English as a second language. Here’s something that may surprise you — in writing, at least, you have great grammar skills. So I’m guessing someone (a teacher or parent perhaps) told you that’s you’re bad with grammar, you’re the child of English professors, or you struggle more verbally than in writing.

      In the latter case, writing (rather than talking) may be your strong suit, since you can play with words and edit your mistakes — or find a good editor. Not all gifted storytellers start out as great writers. I’d suggest taking a grammar class or hanging out with “Grammar Girl” online (just do a Google search for her — she’s got books, podcasts and a blog), more for confidence than anything else. I can assure you that your grammar skills are much better than you realize!

    • Keith

      Okay, Debra,
      I respect your opinion so I will take it and run with it. Clearly my fear must be grounded in PTSD from severe childhood abuse. It’s time to shred my unfounded notions about my skills.

      It’s similar to the notion of skydiving. Why worry about falling and miss out on the pleasure of floating?

      I have heard of Grammar Girl. I will certainly add Grammar Girl alongside your blog in my list of online mentor/resources.

      Thank you for such a prompt and encouraging reply. I needed that just now.

  9. Amanda
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    Its hard to rid oneself of the “shame” of being a late bloomer. I’m 34 and have no idea what I want to do with my life. Well, aside from finding a good looking guy to marry me. (very pathetic goal; this isn’t 1912!)
    I never had the support of a family for ANYTHING I’ve done in my life, including the brief time I was a single mom, so yeah, there’s the lack of support and guidance. I’m trying to work on myself and just don’t know if Kim going about this the right way or not; should I accept that I’m going to be a very late bloomer in every aspect of life or should I fight it?
    Truthfully, my main goal today its marriage. Everything else its bull if you don’t have love…

    • Debra Eve

      Amanda, I don’t think this is a pathetic goal. You’ve said something very poignant about never having family support — what Gladwell thinks is most important for growing “genius.” Melissa Zink didn’t bloom as an artist until her happy second marriage at 43. Edgar Rice Burroughs worked a series of office jobs until age 35, when he wrote Tarzan.

      Like perennial flowers in a garden, I’m beginning to think of the best kind of late-blooming happens over and over as we find our way back to the passions we lost in youth for various reasons. I hope you find the love and support you need in a good man.

  10. Mike
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    Your site is wonderful! During the course of the past several months, my longing to find my passions in life have haunted me. I am 39 and have been working in “Corporate America” for 17 years. I became a Dad in January and I realize that now is the time to pursue my career, creative (and yes) financial goals. What kind of role model would I be for my son if I didn’t have the courage to get up to make it work? If I let fear win every time?

    I started a masters degree in Higher Education Administration a few months back and while I enjoyed it immensely, it made clear to me that it is time to pursue writing, my first love, as my way of life. I had far from the most troublesome childhood but I see now (after taking years of psychology and human behavior classes) how it affected me. Many times I make excuses as to why I can’t make a living as a writer (it is hard, after all) and I get discouraged and fall back into my meager, “secure” job. No more. I am a late bloomer and it is time to let go of the past! I know in my heart that I have the ability to write and to reach people- much in the way you do…..I just need to take the action to do so! You may have had the same predispostion as me- the propensity to over plan and over think and to wait for “the perfect time”, which age has revealed is pure fantasy!

    Thank you for your inspiration and thank you for what you do! All the best to you!

    • Debra Eve

      Mike, we have very similar stories. I worked in “Corporate America” for many years and got a masters degree in Archaeology before I realized that I really wanted to write. Check, troublesome childhood, too. So happy to hear you’ve decided to go for it! The road will still be bumpy. I still divide my time between a day job and writing — but eventually I WILL make the transition and so will you. Thanks for your kind words.

  11. lyle nicholson
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    Hi Debra;

    I am a late blooming writer. I retired from my business at age 57, and started to write again. I have my first Novella coming out this month, followed by a Novel next year, and working on the first draft of second Novel.

    I tried writing at age 35, my wife even offered to support me, but it just wasn’ there. Now, just weeks from my 60th birthday, writing is what I do.

    Lyle Nicholson


    • Debra Eve

      Thanks so much for your comment, Lyle! You’re just the type of person I love to write about. I understand what you mean about 35 — similar thing happened to me. Now I can’t seem to stop and am looking forward to many years ahead!

  12. don w
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    The piece re: Daivid Seidler drew me into your website and it is just so on-the-nose simple but profound. Thanks for “raising up my bar” to carry on with creative pursuits. I’ve tested strange turbulent waters in NY & LA over 20 yrs in writing for the screen; a crazy world geared to skitter-skatter brains of 20 & 30-somethings with no regard for tradition or wisdom. (Some young producers NEVER heard of or know Charles Dickens!) The journey is definitely more important than the destination, thanks for re-planting this back into my “garden-with-weeds-and-flowers.” Wonderful site & I’ve recommended it to 10 others already. Thanks! Don W.

    • @DebraEve

      Thanks for stopping by, Don. Preaching to the choir here — I’m in Los Angeles and actually attended the UCLA screenwriting program ten years ago. Definitely not the place for a middle-aged woman! I was actually told by a few people that I was too “literary,” meaning well-read, and should consider novel-writing. It was good advice. Just keep going, we need screenwriters like you.

  13. Labeeb
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    Hi Ms Debra Eve,

    I just want to say that I love this blog of yours. I only discovered it like last year and I’ve been reading some articles from time to time. I may not be the intended audience for this site, as I am only 24 years old (turning 25 soon), but I feel that I am destined to become a late bloomer AND a renaissance soul. All my life I have experimented with different passions and areas of interest and I still haven’t figured out what I want to do with my life. I haven’t achieved anything significant with my life either and have faced failures and false starts without seeing any light of ‘success’. I have experienced criticism, scrutiny, pessimism and skepticism from family members and some friends when it comes to my dreams and it makes me have a lack of confidence in myself. It’s as if they are forcing to live an average, dull, non-eventful life just because other people are doing it (like they are recommending it to me, how could they do this to others?!?!).

    I see people younger than me succeeding in things that I want to do and it makes me ask myself “What is wrong with me?”, “Am I living my life wrong?”, “Is my life a lie?” and it makes me feel bad sometimes.

    Your blog makes me feel good about myself and gives me hope that it is never too late to start living the life of your dreams. Late bloomers are given bad representations because they are seen as failing to keep up with society’s expectations of achievements and success and are labelled as ‘weirdos’, ‘crazies’, ‘special cases’, ‘anomalies’, ‘try-hards’, ‘laughing-stocks’ or ‘people who have dysfunctional youth’ This is what happens in a society that is obsessed with youth and youth-related achievement and fears aging. It’s twisting our world into something sinister.

    It as if our society is saying ‘If you don’t succeed by a certain age, you will be labelled as loser and a failure forever” or “Youth is power, Age is a handicap” or “Your time has passed for starting this thing, give up now. Go stand in the corner of the world and remain out of sight until you die. You have no use in this world. The world doesn’t want to acknowledge your existence anymore. You have failed to follow society’s expectations. You are not worthy. Goodbye”. This is wrong. This is very very very wrong. I’m glad that this blog is battling against these crippling notions that are ruining many people’s lives and stunting their futures, killing them before they die for real.

    As I turn a quarter of a century, I feel that my life has just begun (What ever would become of my previous 25 years? Don’t they count?, Don’t they matter? Was it all an illusion? Was I really living through all that time? Have I been living my life as a corpse up until now? Are the past-quarter century of my life rendered negligible? A lie? A dream?….

    At least I have about 6 decades ahead of me to do awesome things in my life, to add something to this world (life -permitting of course).

    Thank you for all that you’ve done, Ms Debra Eve. Sorry for the long comment. I just feel that I need to express all of my appreciation of your hard work for all of the late bloomers around the world. I want to join in the cause. Late bloomers are the driving forces in the world (hardly anyone wants to believe that, as they believe young people are gods, the best role models, vessels of envy and desire, marketable goldmines and are preferred above almost everybody else who is not considered ‘young’, which leads to our society’s obsession with beauty and cosmetic surgery).

    Late bloomers are like fine wine: They get better with age.

    Keep up the super cool work. I’ll do my part as well.

    Labeeb from Malaysia.

    • Debra Eve | @DebraEve

      Thank you so much, Labeeb! You’d be surprised at how many young people feel as you do, my niece among them (she’ll be 25 in December). There is so much pressure on young people these days to know exactly what they what to do before they’re 20! Not to mention the way the media gushes over young internet millionaires, for instance, but not 90-year-olds who’ve written their first book.

      It makes no sense. You can’t choose a direction until you’ve had time to explore — the world and yourself. Best of luck to you, Labeeb, and stay in touch. I’d love to hear about your adventures (and life, more than anything, should be an adventure). –Debra

  14. Chris Edgar
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    I definitely appreciate this continuing examination of how “later bloomers” come to be and I definitely relate to a lot of what you say. Until I was 34, I’d certainly experienced frustration around not having a sense of who I was and what I was trying to do in life, and I’d tried a bunch of possible creative avenues, but I hadn’t arrived at a clear direction. I’ve thought a lot about this and realized that the turning point was, believe it or not, seeing “Scott Pilgrim Vs. The World” in August of 2011. The movie had a sense of humor and musical approach that seemed so much like my own, and it occurred to me that people might actually be interested in hearing my creative voice too. The next month, the idea for “Steve’s Quest” came about, and the rest has been history.

    • Debra Eve | @DebraEve

      Thanks for the comment, Chris. So sorry I missed this earlier. Love your “Scott Pilgrim” story and how it relates to “Steve’s Quest”!

  15. Anne R. Allen
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    This is such an inspiring series, Debra! The comments are inspiring too. I thought I was subscribed to your blog, but I didn’t get a notice of either of these, so I’ll have to see what’s up. My spam blocker may have eaten them. It loves to put obnoxious ads in “important” inbox and put all the things I want into spam. Fantastic posts!

    • Debra Eve | @DebraEve

      Thanks so much, Anne. This is a rewrite and republish and I don’t usually send those out. I probably should — my ideas and writing have changed a lot in the last few years!

  16. Kelly B.
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    This article gives me hope. I started wanting to write when I was in my late 30’s. I’ve spent about the last 8 or 9 years learning about writing, thinking about writing, talking about writing, but doing very little actual writing. Since becoming a grandmother this year at the age of 46, I realized I’m not getting any younger (I’m now 47). I’m am currently writing a NaNoWriMo project and am determined not to give up. I may not end up at 50,000 words by the end of November, but I will keep on till I have my first completed draft.

    • Debra Eve | @DebraEve

      Kelly, thanks for your comment. I’ve been thinking a lot about this subject recently and have come to the conclusion that all the planning, research, and reading I’ve done over the years regarding blogging, writing, publishing, web design, etc. was 100% worth it. It’s how my brain works. Many people advised that I was procrastinating, or afraid of success or failure or whatever, but now…I’m ready. It sounds like you are, too. Nano is a great tool for teaching butt-to-seat writing. Congrats and good luck!

  17. Jean Kim
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    Few years back, I remember reading some articles about late bloomer on some other sites and I was looking for some articles about them and the first link I clicked led me here. And I am very glad to find this blog after all! This article has given me much hope that I can walk the path as a late bloomer with pride. Since I was at age 31, two years ago, I considered myself a late bloomer. I was still studying at the graduate school trying to find out where I want to go, trying and learning various subjects. Since I was a kid, I had a passion about music, wanting to become a musician. I always had deep passion about singing and serious about becoming a musician at that time. Howevever, when I moved on to college life in US, away from home, I was more thirsty for learning different areas of studies, such as in communication, bible studies ( I come from Christian family), music, psychology etc. So I transfered to Christian University in California during sophomore year.
    At this school, I majored in different subject than I expected. At first, I wanted to study church music, but took also interest in sociology, psychology and communicational studies. So I ended up in majoring in Interecultural studies, where I could learn social, psyochology and communicational subjects. My years of college has given me a lot of opportunities to meet many people from diverse backgrounds and learned how to communicate. And by the time of graduation, I came back to my country, South Korea since my father had illness at the time. After that, I took TESOL certificate course at the Korea University and ended up going to Korea Graduate School of International Studies.
    At the gradaute school, I began to take courses in business, world history and politics studies. I found not much interest in these subjects when I was in high school, but at that time I was having too much fun just by studing the subjects regardless of final results/grades. Since then, I found myself always curious, wanting to study them and having too much passions and cannot settle for one. My parents did not understand me and they always thought I had no interest in something and settle for one job.
    My close friends always told me that I have a lot of abilities and why don’t you settle for one. I always considered myself slow learner, having passion for animals and nature, and adventures. Now, I’m focusing on traslating works, even though it does give much income. I began to have much passion about writing science fiction and thriller novels these days since I grew up reading a lot of mystery and detective novels.
    And I also agree with your points on why some people are late bloomers. My environment was not stimulating enough that my parents did not offer much guidance how to explore and nurture my talents, and my passions were too many. I thank my parents for being able to read a variety of books such as encyclopedias, science, art, cartoons, and mystery and fantasy novels, and science fiction, where I could have magical moments and vivid imaginations.
    Thanks for your inspirational blog, and I’ll subscribe and come back again!!

    Jean Kim,
    From South Korea.

    • Debra Eve | @DebraEve

      Thank you for your heart-felt letter, Jean! I can relate to almost everything you’ve written. I’m very lucky in that this blog now allows me to explore several of my passions — writing, art, history, travel and adventure. I’ve not yet figured out how to make money from my passions, so I do office work to pay the bills. People don’t understand it, but for me, having a paycheck that allows me to explore several avenues makes more sense now. Good luck to you!

  18. PitaChita
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    Dear Debra,

    I’ve read these posts so often, I read them every time I feel bad about myself for not going as fast as I could. The part where you mention PTSD as a set-back and reason for being a late-bloomer. Always calms me down a bit, it takes away the guilt I can feel for not going as fast as I would like. But deep down I know I should take it slow. I just started making friends with the feelings of fear, anxiety and shame. Accepting them instead of fighting them. It’s not easy but it’s getting easier. The days where I can accept myself as whole I notice how much energy it costs to be afraid, to feel guilty, scared and ashamed and then I think to myself: Wow! I can put all this extra energy into other stuff one day. This is great! I’m turning 33 soon, single, no children, having 3 jobs. Two freelance jobs and a simple job with a steady paycheck. I have the potential to make the freelance jobs into something nice, but it’s hard for me to do so because of the PTSD. I’m slow in making it into something more. I guess I just need more time. Thank you for the posts, probably will read them again whenever I feel like a loser.

    • Debra Eve | @DebraEve

      Thank you so much for writing. That took a lot of courage. I’m struggling with the same things at 57. I don’t think you ever get over it, you just get better at accepting and managing it. I’m finding very few therapists deal with PTSD as it relates to women, so it’s a struggle to even get help. I’m embracing slow as a whole life philosophy these days. The Slow Food movement is quite famous, and it’s spreading to other areas. There’s great wisdom in your observation, “deep down I know I should take it slow.” You’re certainly not a loser! (And apologies for this slow response, I’m dealing with health issues at the moment. We just keep going…)

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